Selecting a preschool for your child is among the most important decisions you will make for your child in their early years. Parents labor over finding the 'best' place. That place is one you hope will meet your child's immediate needs, challenge him to learn more, fuel those areas in which they are currently interested, and provide a loving and nurturing environment, just to name a few. Some preschools emphasize social development, some emphasize academics, and some create a program which blend the two. How do you decide which program is the best for you and your child?

The National Association for the Education of Young Children suggests the following as some of the things parents should see in the program they ultimately select:

• Teachers providing meaningful classroom activities that challenge children to move forward... gain self-confidence, feel proud of their accomplishments, and learn to love learning.

• A curriculum that engages the children. The classroom has been arranged to give children easy access to toys and other materials. The children should have space to interact with their peers and adults.

• The classroom should be maintained in a safe, healthy environment and encourage careful supervision of the children.

• Teachers planning a balanced schedule in which children don't feel rushed or fatigued.

• Nurturing the 3- and 4-year-old's developing language and communication skills by encouraging conversation. They talk to children, listen to their responses, and they provide opportunities for children to talk to one another.

• Teachers help children get the most out of every learning situation by asking the child questions about what they are doing, offering suggestions about other things to do, and adding new challenges as the child is ready for them.

• Clear limits should be set about acceptable social behavior.

• Adults reading to the children every day in many ways, individually, in small groups and even as a whole class.

• The parents are included as part of the community of learning. Parents should be welcomed into the classroom and consulted with about their child's needs and progress.

Clearly asking friends with preschool age children is a logical source of referral. Ask around for recommendations. Contact the school by phone and arrange for an appointment to come and visit their program. Visit at least two schools. Once you have narrowed down your choices, do bring your child along. Their first impressions speak volumes. Follow your own instincts and the decision will be relatively easy. Remember you are your child's first and best teacher.